Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions

Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions

A sharp and entertaining essay collection about the importance of multiple forms of love and friendship in a world designed for couples, from a laser-precise new voice. Sometimes it seems like there are two American creeds, self-reliance and marriage, and neither of them is mine. I experience myself as someone formed and sustained by others' love and patience, by student lo A sharp and entertaining essay collection about the importance of multiple forms of love and friendship in a world de...

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Title:Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions
Author:Briallen Hopper
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Genres:Writing
ISBN:1632868806
Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:336 pages pages

Hard to Love: Essays and Confessions Reviews

  • Briallen Hopper
    May 15, 2018
    The best book I've ever written! ...
  • Katie
    May 22, 2019
    This is a well done memoir in essays. A few of them didn't really resonate with me, but most of them were pretty great. I loved the first one, which is in favor of dependence and against Emersonian self-reliance. Some other memorable essays were about a close friend's cancer diagnosis,...
  • David
    May 20, 2019
    this author dominates. I'm so pleased to have discovered her. Will look forward to reading other work she puts out, and i'm officially envious of her students in "creative nonfiction" at Queens College. I withheld the 5th star only to (a) motivate her to keep publishing to achieve this...
  • Poonam
    Apr 30, 2019
    Love, love, love!!! 4.5 stars (more thoughts coming soon!) ...
  • (a)lyss(a)
    Mar 24, 2019
    I really wanted to like this book, it was on me for thinking it was something different. I appreciate that this book is raw and open and honest. Diving into the life of Hopper and her experience with codependency and how romantic love isn't the ultimate goal. It's a bit of a dense r...
  • Tom
    Apr 23, 2019
    Challenging, thought-provoking & empathy-raising read for an old Catholic guy. Smart, crystal clear prose. ...
  • Thomas
    Mar 24, 2019
    In some ways I feel like I have waited for this essay collection all my life. In Hard to Love, Briallen Hopper rejects the rigid dichotomy so often enforced in society: marry your romantic partner and live happily ever after, or grow old and die alone. Hopper trail blazes a courageous ...
  • Sarah
    Apr 01, 2019
    The first essay was great! The rest were fine, but took too much time relating a theme to a book, movie, or TV show, sometimes spending several pages describing their plots. That's not what I was looking for. ...
  • Sraah
    Nov 21, 2018
    this helped me a lot when i needed it most. so many quotes really stood out to me. this book gave me strength in myself that kept trying to hide its face from my own self. i also really enjoyed learning about Cheers. "The paradox was that my newfound self-reliance was a symptom of m...
  • Keri Walsh
    Jan 17, 2019
    What could happen if we declared and even celebrated our mutual dependency on our friends and siblings, or on our church, work, political and other communities? What if we acknowledged the deep meaning we derive from our feelings for the books and movies and television that are most de...
  • Cristy
    Mar 27, 2019
    3.5 stars ...
  • Shonna Siegers
    Apr 24, 2019
    I?m quoting here so my friends back in the Midwest might see what I?ve been trying to tell them, but they refuse to really see: ?Chronically unmarried women have long endured the injustice of being set aside, ignored, dismissed, made invisible.? ?...all too often female i...
  • Laura Williams
    May 22, 2019
    Lean On stood out among the essays. I adored it. Others were less quotable; however, all taken together this book leaves me feeling like I know Briallen Hopper. She is a person I would be friends with. We would watch Golden Girls and eat baked goods and march for Women's Rights. We wou...
  • Reija
    May 01, 2019
    Too much about random tv shows. ...
  • Cara
    Mar 31, 2019
    I so enjoyed the company of this book. ...
  • Laura
    May 24, 2019
    An essay collection that's actually an essay collection (instead of a poorly organized memoir)! Loved the writing and breadth of topics. ...
  • Yanira
    May 02, 2019
    I really enjoyed this thoughtful essay collection that examines the many people and ways and things we love. Profoundly moving examination on the many ways life takes form. ...
  • Lauren
    May 18, 2019
    3.5 stars-I enjoyed this book overall but it wasn't really what I went into it expecting or wanting (there's a LOT of TV show and book opinion/analysis pieces). Loved "On Spinsters" and "Moby-Dick"-the rest for me were mostly blandly interesting but not something I would have read if I...
  • Mbogo J
    May 23, 2019
    There is a cadre of books that cut through one's life redefining it in two eras; the life before you read the book and the one after. This book is numbered among them. It is not that it made me rethink my life or made my imagination drunk enough to entertain wild ideas of leaving my...
  • Amyleigh
    Apr 29, 2019
    Briallen Hopper`s essays are vulnerable and honest. Every bit of this I clung to. I loved the essay about wanting babies. I loved the essay about grief. I saw so much of myself in these words. Briallen Hopper`s essays are vulnerable and honest. Every bit of this I clung to. I loved...
  • Emily Johnson
    Feb 07, 2019
    This book is beautiful, searing, and helped me to think about love and friendship in new ways. If you are a human who knows other humans, you should read it. ...
  • Kate
    Jun 04, 2019
    For more of my book content check out instagram.com/bookalong ? A Thought-Provoking Collection! I loved this book! In these candid essays the way Hopper writes about finding love and connections was so insightful! Proving that for women there is more ways to find happiness and l...
  • Shea
    May 05, 2019
    I loooooooooooooved this so much. There was a clear and new point of view in this essay collection that I haven't read before. Hopper dances in the space between the binaries like married and single. It's a celebration of friendship and happiness with being alone. But what I enjoyed mo...
  • Emma Eisenberg
    Oct 24, 2018
    If Carrie Bradshaw were v much smarter, more intersectional & more anti-racist & capitalist, this might be the book she'd write. We are in need of all the narratives about lives that do not proceed along a coupling, marriage, & baby track & Hopper's are better than most...
  • Lydia Wang
    Apr 11, 2019
    the essay on sperm banks / moby dick will stay with me for awhile, but not sure any of the others left a very positive or negative impression ...
  • Katie Bennett
    Apr 14, 2019
    I loved it so freakin much. Hopper writes with as much intelligence as the best (Sontag, Solnit, Didion), but also with a kind of light touch and personableness that?s sometimes lacking from the very smart but very formal famous essayists. The collection focuses on relationships that...
  • Jade
    Jun 02, 2019
    There's nothing specifically wrong with this book, I just hated it. I went into it expecting to enjoy it, and found myself struggling to finish it instead. I don't like the writing style, and nothing she has to say interested me or made me think at all. Emphatically, meh. ...
  • James Steichen
    Aug 07, 2018
    I?ve been reading Briallen Hopper?s insightful prose for many years, and I?m excited to see all of her best work in one beautiful volume. Imagine if an Anne-of-Green-Gables-esque young woman grew up in late twentieth-century Washington state, wrote a dissertation on Uncle Tom?...
  • Lindsey Centrella
    Feb 18, 2019
    In our society, women are taught at an early age that the ultimate goal in life is to find true love and marry, and those who fail will be unhappy and feel unfulfilled. Through a series of experiences and critical analysis, Hopper reaffirms that love is not just romantic love, and a li...
  • KayW4
    Mar 03, 2019
    Full disclosure: I know the author, and I am mentioned in the acknowledgements (thanks Bri!). And let me tell you what an enormous relief it is that I am able to review this book after all. Because I decided a long time ago that I wouldn't review books by people I know if I don't love ...