I'm Afraid of Men

I'm Afraid of Men

"Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and challenge you to do better. This challenge is a necessary one?one we must all take up. It is a gift to dive into Vivek's heart and mind." ?Rupi Kaur, bestselling author of The Sun and Her Flowers and Milk and Honey A trans artist explores how masculinity was imposed on "Emotional and painful but also layered with humour, I'm Afraid of Men will widen your lens on gender and chall...

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Title:I'm Afraid of Men
Author:Vivek Shraya
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:I'm Afraid of Men
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Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:96 pages pages

I'm Afraid of Men Reviews

  • Jerrie (redwritinghood)
    Oct 21, 2018
    This slim volume is a longish essay about the author?s experiences as a bisexual teen and then later as a trans woman. There aren?t any insights here that anyone up on contemporary feminism would find surprising, but the deeply personal aspect of the essays makes it a compelling re...
  • Thomas
    Dec 26, 2018
    A vulnerable, powerful examination of gender and masculinity from trans artist Vivek Shraya. I?m Afraid of Men reminded me of We Should All Be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, as Shraya uses her personal experiences of sexism and harassment to build a case for why we need to ...
  • l.
    Oct 19, 2018
    Tbh Vivek just isn?t in command of her material here. The way Vivek continually conflates femininity and women is extremely irritating and I?m fed up of trans writers doing this. I?m tried of people substituting the word feminine for female - which Vivek does repeatedly. They?r...
  • Basma
    Oct 22, 2018
    One of those books that I?m finding it hard to review so I?m just going to let it go.. ...
  • Lisa H
    Sep 06, 2018
    Honestly, everyone should read this book. Shraya examines how masculinity has effected her life, she was too feminine as a boy, and is not feminine enough as a girl. It brings up tough questions about gender and asks us to reconsider what it means to be a "good" man. How do we make goo...
  • Krista
    Sep 04, 2018
    I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me fear. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to fear the word girl by turning it into a weapon they used to hurt me. I'm afraid of men because it was men who taught me to hate and eventually destroy my femininity. I'm a...
  • Laura Frey (Reading in Bed)
    Nov 08, 2018
    I don't know how to rate this, so I won't at the moment. There were several passages that were thought provoking, but was not the uncomfortable or confronting read I was expecting. Particularly the (very relatable) concept of wanting to be seen/desired, but also be invisible at the sam...
  • Jackie
    Jun 30, 2018
    Some will be afraid of this book and that?s exactly why they - and you - should read it. It makes you think, it makes you nod in agreement and shake your head at the behaviour of some and most importantly forces you to consider yourself. ...
  • Sylwia (Wish Fulfillment)
    May 19, 2019
    ? Please ignore my rating, as my ratings are more for me than for you. Thank you! ? ? Whenever I review, I ask myself the same set of questions, based on my personal standards for novels. I exclude the sections about ?characters? and ?plot? when reviewing nonfiction, o...
  • CaseyTheCanadianLesbrarian
    Oct 19, 2018
    4.5! Moving, accessible, important: that's what this book is! I loved it. My only complaint is that it was so short! Full review to come on my blog. "What if you were to challenge yourself every time you feel afraid of me, and all of us who are pushing against gendered expectations...
  • Lydia
    Jan 31, 2019
    I used to work for an LGBTQ+ non-profit, and part of my job was reading and researching books, journals and other forms of media. It was exhausting. It killed my ability to read for pleasure. I was tired, often, of reading the same statistics, experiencing the same pain the communi...
  • Lola
    Dec 16, 2018
    Sometimes I read 300 or more-page books and I wonder if I read anything at all. Not everything I stumble across has to make me look at the world differently or teach me over and over, but I want something memorable because it?s more much valuable than a book that provides you with th...
  • Prakash
    Sep 01, 2018
    After reading "even this page is white" I never thought I would see my experience as a (gender)queer South Asian person living in Canada so acutely expressed in literature. But "I'm Afraid of Men" has done just that. Vivek Shraya so succinctly and devastatingly recounts how the systemi...
  • rachel
    Jun 01, 2019
    my first read of pride! thought-provoking & powerful ...
  • Beth
    Aug 29, 2018
    I initially picked up this book hoping to see through the eyes of a trans woman and educate myself on what her path might look like. What I discovered was an insight into a very difficult journey but along with that I was challenged in my own perception of gender conformity. It mad...
  • Jane
    Oct 27, 2018
    This book is a necessary antidote to cisgender, white perspectives of feminism in a post-#MeToo era (whatever that even means anymore!). What I found particularly powerful about Shraya's theorizing of masculinity is all the love and hope the narrator (and younger selves) gives the men ...
  • chantel nouseforaname
    Oct 23, 2018
    This was a hard and very instigating read for me that I could and couldn?t relate to on LEVELS. I have many issues with so many concepts in this book and they mainly stem from the pointed questions, relating to her own experience, that Vivek uses to paint cis-gendered woman in this a...
  • Callum McLaughlin
    Apr 28, 2019
    Phenomenal. This book should be required reading. To say so much, so succinctly, about the pervasive harm of masculine energy, whilst offering hope for a better future, is frankly awe inspiring. I am neither trans nor a person of colour, as Shraya is. For that reason, I would never ...
  • Kiki
    Aug 26, 2018
    How to describe this book? It's essentially an almanac of whining. Shraya, born into privilege and now a university professor after struggling for many years to achieve fame as a pop star, enumerates the ways in which she's felt oppressed, or even made slightly uncomfortable, by men (a...
  • Elisabeth Manley
    Sep 23, 2018
    Make yourself smaller, invisible, don?t take up too much space, don?t accidentally rub arms with the man next to you on the subway. Don?t make eye contact, or smile, don?t accidentally show an interest that could be seen as ?asking for it?, whatever ?it? may be. Vivek S...
  • Dylan
    Nov 10, 2018
    *I've chosen to try to no longer rate memoirs unless I find it problematic/harmful or is a five star read. I really appreciated this and Vivek's experiences being a trans queer woman, but I just feel like this book is too short. She would start to talk about her experiences and I co...
  • Monika
    Jun 08, 2018
    This was an incredible essay. In so few pages Vivek Shraya really drives her point home. It's as heart wrenching as it is illuminating. This is essential reading - for everyone. Special thanks to NetGalley for the ARC! I'm Afraid of Men comes out August 28. Please pick up a copy. If...
  • Cindy Pham
    May 20, 2019
    A short yet sobering book written with raw honesty and valuable insights of how we treat women and people within the LGBT+ community. I was surprised to find myself gaining new perspectives based on the questions that Shraya asks, particularly with how we put men on a binary between ?...
  • Emy
    Jan 23, 2019
    A short essay, highlighting Sharaya's experience of abuse, cruelty of society, misogyny, the hurtful fact that how common these experiences are :( how violence affects the self-esteem, and therefore: happiness! The book started with ?I?m afraid of men because it was men who taught...
  • Starlah
    May 08, 2019
    In this essay, trans artist, Vivek Shraya writes with raw honesty her reasons for being afraid. Throughout her life, she had endured acts of cruelty and aggression. She discusses the damage - on not only herself but on society - that has been caused by misogyny, homophobia, and transph...
  • Catherine
    Jan 23, 2019
    I would be lying if I said that the title didn?t have a huge influence on my intrigue in this initially, however, this book ended up giving me way more insight than I could have ever guessed. Exploring masculinity from the perspective of a trans woman through her experiences both pre...
  • Matthew Sciarappa
    Mar 10, 2019
    Required Reading. ...
  • Jennie Chantal
    Oct 23, 2018
    This long essay was more memoir than I expected, which is no disappointment! I finished it in just two hours and will be recommending it all around. I do wish it was longer, although I have the sense it?s one I?ll read again and again. ...
  • Joan
    Aug 31, 2018
    Breathtakingly neurotic, self-absorbed person depicts countless incidents of self-consciousness throughout a life defined entirely by how others perceive her. At the end, one gets absolutely no sense that she's found emancipation or balance from her transition. Depressing and so very s...
  • Diane Creeman
    Sep 06, 2018
    I picked up this beautiful little Penguin hardcover with high hopes. I wanted to read a trenchant essay on toxic masculinity. This book is garbage. It's like something someone in grade eight would write in their diary. The gist of it is "this boy in high school I thought was cute told ...