Faking It: The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal

Faking It: The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal

From Out of the Binders co-founder Lux Alptraum, a controversial look at women, sex, and lying--why myths about women's deceit persist, how they came to be, and ultimately why we must trust women When we talk about sex, we talk about women as mysterious, deceptive, and - above all - untrustworthy. Women lie about orgasms. Women lie about being virgins. Women lie about who From Out of the Binders co-founder Lux Alptraum, a controversial look at women, sex, and lying--why myths about women...

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Title:Faking It: The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal
Author:Lux Alptraum
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:1580057659
Format Type:Paperback
Number of Pages:256 pages pages

Faking It: The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal Reviews

  • Meghan
    Dec 04, 2018
    I was eager to read this one as it sounded right up my alley. Unfortunately, if you do a fair amount of reading around gender, sex, and harassment, there won't be anything new for you in this book. I found myself irritated at many points throughout the book regarding Alptraum's deci...
  • Kent Winward
    Nov 12, 2018
    This isn't so much about the lies they tell others, but how the entire social construct around sex generates lying from both genders. ...
  • Amy!
    Jul 09, 2019
    I decided I wasn't actually that interested in this topic right now. ...
  • Jennifer
    Dec 18, 2018
    Faking orgasms, altering sexual histories, inventing boyfriends...women lie. Makeup, photo filters, push-up bras, and even Spanx are vehicles that lead to authenticity concerns against women. In Faking It: The Lies Women Tell about Sex--And the Truths They Reveal, author Lux Alptraum d...
  • Allison
    Feb 20, 2019
    I put several markers in as I read but as I went back through at book's end I wasn't as enamored. Still an ok read. I did like the discussion of "sexual milestones" instead of focus on virginity loss. I also liked the chapter "I woke up like this." Paraphrasing the author--the world of...
  • Wendy Ortiz
    Jan 21, 2019
    Disclaimers: Lux is a friend, and she interviewed me for this book. REGARDLESS: this book is excellent, timely, intelligent, funny in moments, and covers so much juicy territory. I particularly appreciate that the perspectives in the book are not limited to white women (as so often...
  • Charlotte Render
    Dec 31, 2018
    I enjoyed reading this, it showed me that this stuff is everywhere and it opened my eyes a little more than they had previously been ...
  • Colleenish
    Apr 07, 2019
    Interesting essays, but I'm already familiar with a lot of the author's sources and examples, making it feel a little recycled. ...
  • Sofia The Great
    Jul 26, 2019
    I liked this book. Lots of facts about being a woman. Highly recommend it. ...
  • Stephan
    Dec 09, 2018
    Reading this book from the male view, I changed the way I think about myself, and how men treat women in general. The author argues that women lie to keep up the proper image society has imposed on them. The lies cover how many sexual partners she has had, if she "came" or not, endurin...
  • Russell Grant
    Dec 26, 2018
    4.5/5 I've been familiar with Alptraum's work for awhile, so I was really looking forward to reading the first book. I was not disappointed. Breaking down the stereotypical and actual lies that women tell one by one, as an old guy new to woman studies books, it's quite a revelation....
  • Cassey
    May 12, 2019
    Well researched and executed ...
  • Christina
    Feb 11, 2019
    I don?t agree with every single part of the argument, but it?s still an excellent introduction to an important conversation that just about everyone should be having at one point or another. ...
  • Sarah
    Jan 23, 2019
    I follow the author on twitter and had heard her on a podcast talking about Faking It, and I was super intrigued. This is a great book. She addresses the idea that women are duplicitous by nature. The way she approaches it is interesting tho?by analyzing different situations (all per...
  • Amanda
    Jun 26, 2019
    This book is well researched and well argued. There were many points where Alptraum wrote a setence that just cut right to the point and resonated so deeply with my own experience that it was almost jarring and validating at the same time. I like that the conclusions of this book feel ...
  • Steppenwulf
    Jan 04, 2019
    As a male chauvinist pig, I started to read this hoping to find something to rant about. Of course I was annoyed when I found it well written and had to admit that most statements are nicely balanced. My interpretation so far is that it is about fundamental questions every human being ...
  • Kales
    Nov 25, 2018
    Praise! Amen! Raise your hands in hallelujah and shout it from the rooftops. What an excellent, insightful, well-researched book. I plucked this off of libro.fm's ALC (advanced listening copies) for booksellers randomly. Truly, it was random. Because there was another audiobook tha...
  • Harris
    Nov 12, 2018
    This is an exceptional book that talks about a subject that's both ubiquitous and also a little taboo: the lies that women tell. And while there're inevitably some would-be wags who would leap on this as though it somehow invalidated the idea of #believewomen, what Lux Alptraum does is...
  • Sierra
    Mar 12, 2019
    I really enjoyed the beginning of this book; it started off quite strong. As the book progressed it became more about social pressure/expectations/norms surrounding women, thus revealing why women lie in general, not about sex specifically. I enjoyed the first half of this book, but fo...
  • Alicia Chen
    Aug 08, 2019
    this book really opened my eyes about a lot of things and helped me think of my personal biases ...
  • Rachel Matthews
    Dec 14, 2018
    The first chapter really sets the tone for the rest of this book. Alptraum gets stuck in straight away talking about orgasms - what they are, how they feel and why both women and men fake them. Alptraum then goes on to fearlessly tackle topics such as the myth of the hymen, consent, ...
  • Jonathan Lavallee
    Nov 20, 2018
    There is something to be said for perspective. As a man, I am aware of stories and discussion around lies and sexuality but they're always framed from a very accusatory perspective. Sadly, that's quite possibly the history of men thinking about women. Which is why a book like Faking It...
  • Kourtni R.
    Mar 13, 2019
    Loved, loved, loved. In particular, I liked that Alptraum doesn't just simply say "oh here are some things women lie about pretty often" but actually delves a lot deeper into WHY women feel compelled or obligated to lie about them. She also presents a lot of different viewpoints which ...
  • Gayatri
    Aug 03, 2019
    So true. And highly relevant. ...
  • Zachary
    Mar 05, 2019
    I thought I had empathy for what women deal with every day but this book came as a shock to the system and a cold splash of water to the face about how much more I had to learn. Seriously if you're a man you should check this out, you might see some of yourself, both good and bad, refl...
  • Luke Crawford
    Jul 17, 2019
    I had so much fun reading this. It's... really interesting to see a woman's perspective on these things and how that lines up (and not) with that of a man. Alptraum is an excellent prose stylist (I found this book 'cause she's witty and clever on twitter) - and that is, really the ...
  • Alexandra
    Aug 07, 2019
    when I first started this book I was all sorts of indignant to hear that to preach the benefits of orgasm for every woman is pejorative and not all women want orgasms from sex. Yeah, okay. I don't know their lives. I'm still miffed at my friends taking men home and coming out dissatisf...
  • Gitanjali
    Mar 11, 2019
    I want to note a couple of things that really stood out for me: 1. Our obsession with orgasmic sex and how this puts women in such a difficult spot hence the lies. This part was mind-blowing to me. Sex can be many things - reaching an orgasm is obviously important but it's also a wa...
  • Rachel Hock
    Nov 09, 2018
    Lux Alptraum is so f***ing smart. I knew that this book would engage me, but I was not prepared for how much it moved me. ...
  • Reilly Moran
    May 07, 2019
    My friend Carina lent me this book for my trip to Utah cuz I forgot mine at home. From a male persepctive, this book helped me understand some shiz regarding the female psyche. I'm picky when it comes to reading and because this book was such an eye opener i'm putting it down as a book...