Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward

From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold dive into the unpaid, invisible work women have shouldered for too long?and an impassioned vision for creating a better future for us all. Day in, day out, women anticipate and manage the needs of others. In relationships, we initiate the hard conversations. At ho From Gemma Hartley, the journalist who ignited a national conversation on emotional labor, comes Fed Up, a bold div...

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Title:Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward
Author:Gemma Hartley
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:0062855980
Edition Language:English
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:272 pages pages

Fed Up: Emotional Labor, Women, and the Way Forward Reviews

  • Ang
    Nov 27, 2018
    This packs a punch. It's a really PERSONAL book, which was fascinating, because it's also a really universal book. It's also super practical towards the end; I think I have a better idea of how to broach the subject of emotional labor with my partner, which feels really refreshing. If ...
  • Kelly
    Dec 27, 2018
    Cathartic af, you guys. To be honest, you can probably get the point and a measure of the release you might need on this topic from reading the Longreads article the author wrote (which is essentially most of Chapter Three of this book), but man if you wanted more like I did, this book...
  • Kristen
    Jan 12, 2019
    3.5 stars. Not a ton of new information here, though, this is an important book anyway. Not to mention that the familiarity and solidarity is incredibly satisfying. Her nods to disabled and trans/non binary women felt quite deficient so there is still a great deal of thinking to be don...
  • Amanda
    Dec 07, 2018
    I was expecting a more researched book given what a fascinating and dense topic this is. I understand why the author would've wanted to insert her personal experience at times, but she did so to such an extent that the end result felt closer to a memoir. Ultimately, 'Fed Up' left me wi...
  • Maggie
    Sep 18, 2018
    This is a thought-provoking book on the unseen emotional labor of women, how society has shaped both men and women's acceptance of this role, and what we can do about it. While well-researched it's also not a slog, and I read it in big gulps. ...
  • Cari
    Sep 25, 2018
    Hartley's in-depth analysis of emotional labor and its implications across Western society breaks ground in this discipline. Stemming from a Harper's Bazaar article ? ?Women Aren?t Nags, We?re Just Fed Up? ? the book explores how emotional labor and its distribution affects...
  • Elizabeth
    Jan 16, 2019
    I really enjoyed Hartley putting into words something I've felt like I was carrying around alone. ...
  • Debie
    Jan 19, 2019
    People think I'm weird when I say the only good sleep I get is when I'm hospitalized. They don't get it. This author gets it though - that blissful moment when one is officially "off duty" - a moment that seemingly never comes unless under dire circumstances. Only recently have I b...
  • Jennifer
    Nov 28, 2018
    "My husband does a lot. He helps me out with the housework, he takes care of our children if I will be out, he will do anything I ask him to. Personally, I think I'm pretty lucky." In response to praise such as this, author Gemma Hartley asks, ?Does he do a lot compared to other men ...
  • Maja  - BibliophiliaDK ‚ú®
    Nov 06, 2018
    I can't wait for this! Ever since I read Hartley's article 'Women Arent's Nags - We're Jut Fed Up' I have been waiting for this book. That article articulated some things that I had been feeling but didn't know how to describe and I am really looking forward to learning more about...
  • Emily May
    Dec 26, 2018
    2 stars. When I first saw the main title of this book - those two words "Fed Up" - before I even knew what the book was about, I thought of my mum. I pictured her juggling the wants and needs of three kids after a day of work, arms full of laundry that she would load into the machin...
  • Cristine Mermaid
    Oct 24, 2018
    I was excited to read this book because the blog post that had led to this book being written resonated so strongly with me. I read it in a day and was not disappointed. It's not a long book but there is so much in here that matters that I'm going to take it chapter by chapter after my...
  • Jo-Ann Duff (Duffy The Writer)
    Dec 25, 2018
    Fed Up. Why do women subconsciously take on the emotional labour of the home? Is it years of deep-seated†patriarchy? Or do we chose to be in control? In 2017 Gemma Hartley wrote an article in Harper's Bazaar which quickly went viral. 'Women Aren't Nags - We're Just Fed Up' was all ...
  • Joanna Fantozzi
    Jan 13, 2019
    3.5 stars. While Gemma Hartley is a great writer and the subject itself is VERY important (I was one of the thousands of women who had epiphany moments upon reading her original essay, even though I have only been in serious relationships and have neither a husband not children) I did ...
  • Amanda Misiti
    Dec 31, 2018
    By the end, I was exhausted by the topic of emotional labor. Some good insights but I?d recommend sticking to her Harpers Bazaar article. I haven?t read it but felt like this was too long for the topic. ...
  • Jessica
    Nov 25, 2018
    It's hard to overstate how valuable I found this book. It's as if Hartley has taken everything I've struggled to articulate about what goes on in my head on a daily basis and laid it all out, not just explaining what it feels like to carry the mental and emotional load in a marriage, b...
  • Jennifer
    Nov 25, 2018
    Worth listening to via audio. The narrator, Therese Plummer, did an amazing job and doesn't sound at all like she's reading nonfiction. They made a great choice. I liked that Hartley referenced another book I read this year called Drop the Ball by Tiffany Dufu. I thought this was g...
  • Priya Nalkur-pai
    Dec 13, 2018
    I read this about a month ago and took some time to reflect and process my thoughts...and really understand why I felt so incomplete after reading this. Some parts where she describes the burden of emotional labor are so infuriatingly accurate they made my blood boil. But what she ...
  • joni edelman
    Sep 11, 2018
    Necessary. I?d like to see this be required feminist reading. Gemma tackles The hard stuff here with insight and intellect. Next step: CHANGE. ...
  • Nikki
    Dec 06, 2018
    Eh, it's okay. It's frustratingly heterosexual and focuses far more on the dynamics within a relationship between a man and a woman ( which makes sense given the scope I suppose...). However it does show an inadequate analysis of same sex couples and doesn't move beyond acknowledging t...
  • Alyssa Cardona
    Nov 11, 2018
    Fed UP is the book every woman should definitely be reading come November 13th. Gemma Hartley takes up the stand and makes it known to women that they are not alone in this journey that is emotional labor. Gemma allows us to learn how day through day there exists a growing amount of ...
  • Annette
    Dec 31, 2018
    I want to start a book club just on this book and then make everyone in my world read it so they'll talk about it with me. ...
  • PipReads
    Jan 16, 2019
    Yep. It's a good one ...
  • Krista Varela Posell
    Dec 15, 2018
    A bit repetitive at times, but still an important book nonetheless. Brendan and I read this concurrently and it has given us a new language to talk about our relationship dynamic. ...
  • Carolyn Harris
    Nov 21, 2018
    Fed Up is both a memoir of the author's marriage and a wider cultural analysis of how society views emotional labour. Hartley writes with warmth and optimism about the frustrations caused by the organizational activities that appear invisible but make individual homes and communities r...
  • Morgan Henley
    Dec 19, 2018
    Oof. Stretching an essay that went viral to an entire book was a bit too ambitious for this one. I felt half of the book was just repeating itself (we get it, dads/husbands don?t clean or take care of kids as much as women do, no need to spell out every example) and the anecdotes got...
  • Gwendolyn B.
    Dec 10, 2018
    I tip my Portland Trailblazers cap to Hartley for opening a much needed cultural conversation about an unjust but invisible division of labor between the sexes. Combining research and interviews with courageously personal self-disclosures about her own marriage, she walks us through th...
  • Alison Terpstra
    Dec 04, 2018
    Man this book sucked. I was so ready as this is a very important topic within feminism but she quoted Sheryl Sandberg in the opening chapter and I rolled my eyes. Really? I just feel more research was needed into this - it was all very personal and poorly supported when there is great ...
  • Caitlin Kunkel
    Dec 27, 2018
    This is an essential, modern, necessary book that uses excellent reporting and the author's own personal story to pull on the threads of emotional labor and why it's such a key element of modern households and work environments. Really appreciated this read and have gifted to several p...
  • Reema Zaman
    Oct 27, 2018
    With tremendous insight, candor, and warmth, Gemma Hartley deftly and confidently moves us through this complex conversation on women, emotional labor, and more. She gives us her all, and in doing so, we readers become better, humbler, stronger, and wiser. Countless women, as mothers, ...