And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready

Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like a grown up. Meaghan O'Connell always felt totally alienated by the cutesy, sanctimonious, sentimental tone of most writing about motherhood. After getting accidentally pregnant in her twenties, she realized that the book she needed--a brutally honest, agenda-l Operating Instructions for the Millennial set: a fiercely honest account of becoming a mother before feeling like ...

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Title:And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready
Author:Meaghan O'Connell
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Genres:Nonfiction
ISBN:0316393843
Format Type:Hardcover
Number of Pages:240 pages pages

And Now We Have Everything: On Motherhood Before I Was Ready Reviews

  • Jenny (Reading Envy)
    Jul 15, 2018
    Meaghan O'Connell writes honestly about pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, including all the physical challenges and how relationships change after you become a mother, no matter what your intentions and beliefs may have been. I think I would have appreciated more reflection and time pa...
  • Jess
    Jul 20, 2018
    Gah, I loved this book. O'Connell captures so well the fears and anxieties of would-be moms (and I assume new moms too), and the first part of the book feels like a season of Master of None. While this memoir did nothing to assuage my deep-seated fears about pregnancy, I appreciated he...
  • Emily
    Apr 17, 2018
    I passed out on the subway while reading this book. There were probably a lot of other factors involved, but I don't think that Meaghan O'Connell's description of an epidural helped. ...
  • Karen
    Jul 20, 2018
    The blurb makes it sound like Meaghan got pregnant when she was really young, or at some sort of really inappropriate time when motherhood was the last thing anyone would've expected her to tackle. But no, she was 29, engaged, had a career with a flexible schedule - it doesn't seem lik...
  • Cynthia Shannon
    Mar 23, 2018
    I'm the kind of person who likes to prepare for the worst-case scenario. If I know what the worst possible outcome might be then I can mentally prepare myself for that and be positively surprised if it's not as bad as I thought it would be. This book does exactly that and it's finally ...
  • Bronwyn
    Jun 13, 2018
    So many thoughts... I?ll get some down tomorrow when I?m on a computer. Let?s just say for now, that I really needed this book. <3 *** I own this in hardcover, but read the kindle version, and I'm glad I did. Kindle (or goodreads through kindle) tells me I made 147 highl...
  • Racheal
    Apr 09, 2018
    As someone who doesn't plan to have kids, I did not expect to be so engrossed by this or to identify with it so thoroughly. It just hit a pitch-perfect tone for me; there's no navel-gazey, hippy mom bullshit in sight, just a particular mix of insecurity and mild cynicism that character...
  • Adrienne
    Jan 22, 2018
    I related to this book very deeply, which is maybe odd, because I don't actually have children. But I'm trying to decide if I want to, and reading this memoir allowed me to feel like I was sitting inside a close friend's mind while she experienced everything for me. (Convenient! Except...
  • Rachel
    Aug 03, 2018
    I will probably never be a mother, for reasons both in and out of my control. But I am fascinated by pregnancy, and regret that I will probably never get to experience it to term. I am interested in what it's like to feel like you are growing an alien, to be acutely aware that your bod...
  • Mainon
    Jun 20, 2018
    The best recommendation I can give this is that I immediately wanted to share it with all of my female friends who are mothers and say, "OH my gosh, is this what it's really like? It SEEMS like this might be what it's really like." In other words, it does a great job of communicating t...
  • Bailey
    Apr 21, 2018
    I didn't expect to read this in one day but I couldn't put it down. Harrowing in a variety of ways from beginning to end, it made me think of all the conversations I've had with friends in the last few years, about living in Brooklyn and coming up on 30 and looking at the future. Ov...
  • Katy
    Jun 21, 2018
    I was very curious about how the author would come out at the end of this book ? would she regret having a child? Or would she start trying to get pregnant again right away? Would the stress of having an unplanned child tear her relationship apart? As a woman who doesn't have childre...
  • Madeleine
    May 20, 2018
    This book, at the very least, turned me off getting pregnant until I forget everything I ever read about it, so there's that. I know I'm skewed a little younger than the target audience, but I just think this is a large part of the "Getting Real About Motherhood" perspective that I...
  • Jessica Woodbury
    Sep 09, 2018
    I try not to think about the first year I was a mother. Actually, I don't think much about the second year either. The way people talk about parenthood generally and motherhood specifically, you expect it to just happen, you expect to find this new part of yourself, you expect to be ha...
  • Amy
    Apr 30, 2018
    Every once in a while there is some genuine insight here, but this was for the most part kind of shallow and annoying. I wanted something that explores the complexity of motherhood, like how you love your kids, you would die for your kids, but if you had it to do over again you might n...
  • Emily May
    Mar 20, 2018
    A woman had an electric razor out and was shaving my pubic hair. I debated asking her if she accepted tips and decided against it. This was such an enjoyable reading experience. I laughed, I remembered, I nodded along with some of the author's experiences and cringed at others. I su...
  • Annie Hartnett
    Feb 12, 2018
    Compulsively readable, honest, & raw. Finished in one sitting and am glad to have read it. ...
  • Kristin Boldon
    Jun 15, 2018
    I'm struggling recently with books that are about important things that I don't think are great and this is an example. The author writes about her unexpected pregnancy, tough birth, and year of postpartum challenge. It's really important to de-romanticize motherhood and babies, to tal...
  • Samantha Fraenkel
    Apr 22, 2018
    This is the book on motherhood that I've been waiting for. I can't count the number of times, while reading, I thought "Wow, I thought I was the only one that thought that / felt that way". Refreshingly candid about pregnancy, birth, and the early days of motherhood, And Now We Have Ev...
  • Janine
    Aug 28, 2018
    I love this book for its honesty. For O'Connell being brave enough to tell her story as it was, and not as the world tells us pregnancy and childbirth and raising a baby should be. To me, there is almost nothing more terrifying than the idea of bringing another life into the world....
  • Susie | Novel Visits
    Apr 13, 2018
    My Thoughts: Interestingly, Meaghan O?Connell?s book is subtitled ?On Motherhood Before I Was Ready.? Why so interesting you might ask. Well, it?s actually for a couple reasons, one that has to do with all women and one more for O?Connell. As a woman with now adult child...
  • Jessica
    Jul 23, 2018
    ?The biggest problem of all was that I loved the baby so immediately and desperately, I knew I could never actually escape. I was not just trapped in our apartment with my tits out, I was also trapped in love with him. I could never go back to before.? Oh my gosh I have never re...
  • Brooke
    Jul 24, 2018
    Parts of this book made me actually queasy... but that?s part of what made me glad to read it. No-holds-barred look at pregnancy and childbirth from someone close to my age... as someone still in the ?eventually? camp, this was enlightening. ...
  • Rachel
    May 04, 2018
    Reading this book was like reading the diary of my high school friend who never grew up. It was complete navel gazing - there was no greater meaning, no truth, no deeper understanding, and most of the beginning felt incredibly false. Like she took these fleeting tiny thoughts she might...
  • Lola
    Sep 06, 2018
    If you?re wondering if this book can be enjoyed by people who have not given birth ? why, yes, it can! I haven?t and found this to be so interesting I am now actively looking for other memoirs such as this one (though perhaps a little more uplifting this time around). I first...
  • Stephanie
    Aug 14, 2018
    It should be said from the the start: this is not a happy story, but yet - it definitely is. When O'Connell finds herself accidentally pregnant, she's thrust from her group of (mostly single) friends into an unknown world. There's fear and anticipation of the future, anxiety over makin...
  • Marily SV
    Jul 03, 2018
    Plusieurs citations vraiment TRÈS mémorables. J?ai adoré certaines parties du livre, en particulier ce qui a trait à ses attentes déçues de son accouchement, le sentiment de l?avoir raté, d?avoir offert une « piètre performance » face à la douleur, etc. Probablement p...
  • Jennifer
    Jul 01, 2018
    There are a lot of things I appreciated about this book, but I also found myself feeling oddly judgmental about the author?s tone in a way that?s really unusual for me. I?ll probably be writing about this for another outlet soon, so we?ll see if I?m able to articulate it bett...
  • Conor
    Sep 22, 2018
    Funny, harrowing, honest take on parenthood before you're ready. Read before gifting to a friend, and was not disappointed. ...
  • Katie Benzel
    Jun 18, 2018
    I found the first part of this book infinitely relatable (except for the unplanned aspect of the pregnancy): reading all the hippie books, going to prenatal yoga, but not really sure what life would look like on the other side. Going into labor expecting a hard but glorious natural bir...